Being a first time Dad to my 15 month old daughter Breana (Bree-anna)has opened my eyes up to a whole new world. If you’re a parent, you know exactly what I’m saying, without my having to over explain it.
But rest assured this email is for everyone whether a parent of not.
I encourage you to take a few minutes and read this email. If you want to skip to the bottom and just register for my next live training call, then you can do that as well.
But this email could literally change your life forever…and even more important help change the lives of your children forever.
Yeah I mean it! 
You see, I am hungry for knowledge wisdom and capabilities I can share with my daughter to help her have the greatest chance possible for a happy, healthy and accomplished life.
Last week I was in Washington DC brainstorming with some amazing, smart, successful people. I won’t drop names (I did that enough last week with Michael Jordan and Joel Osteen) but these were people you would know and respect.
Anyway, we got off business for a while and talked about the ingredients for success. One person brought up a study he had read a few years back that touched home so deeply I had to share it with you.
They took 100 of what the world considered the most successful people alive. People like Bill Gates, Oprah, Michael Jordan, Warren Buffet and 96 others, and what they were looking for was common threads or common factors that they all shared.
The questions they asked or things they considered were things like:
- If they came from divorced family or not. - Whether they came from money or not. - What their education level was. - What their marital status was… and many more great questions.
None seemed to match up, until, they got about 83 questions out. Then one question, one common denominator stood out with the overwhelming majority of the people. They had this one thing in common.
Blind Encouragement!
It showed that at some point in there life (mostly between the ages of 3 and 7) they had someone in their life that allowed them to dream and set goals with no boundaries.
And in most cases, it wasn’t their parents.
This hit home so hard because to this day I wear my grandmothers wedding ring around my neck.
My parents split when I was three and I lived with my Grandmother much of my childhood. My “Gram” was the person in my life who gave me “Blind Encouragement.”
If I told my Gram I wanted to go to the moon when I was 6 years old she would simply say “bring me back some moon dust” rather then “oh dear little kids can’t go to the moon.”
At that very moment I realized just how significant her impact was on my life.
You see it doesn’t usually come from parents - not because they don’t love you - but in many cases they feel they’re protecting you from failure.
If you are really small they may talk you out of trying out for little league where blind encouragement would tell you to go for it and do your best… and if you fail, it is no big deal… that TRUE failing would be not trying at all.
“Safety” thinking would promote you to go get a job, be sure and put as much money away into an IRA for retirement as you can. A “Blind Encouragement” mentality would tell you to follow your passion, know you can do anything you put your mind to and wealth will follow.
Did you have anyone in your life that allowed you to dream or talk about limitless goals?
If not then you may be struggling with someone else’s limits or “safety” feelings that were instilled in you as a child, and to this day you don’t know why you can’t follow you passions.
I wanted to take the time to share this with you today because I was blessed to have Carmella Mannesse Post (my Grandmother) share blind encouragement with a small, shy and sometime scared of the world little boy.
Today that allows me to embrace and respect failure rather then having paralysis and doing nothing.
If you didn’t have that kind of person in your life, than seek one out. Drift away or stop listening to people who stifle your dreams and goals.
Know that failure is part of your success. Know that the reality of the situation is what you think that situation is not what others think it is…
I am encouraging you to step out of what is normal and take action with things that can allow you to wake up excited about each day.
For me, it is real estate - and training others how to do it. I hope it is real estate for you as well because it has allowed me to prosper in so many ways. Honestly, I would love to be your real estate teacher, but if real estate is not for you then find out what it is and go for it!
Life is meant to be lived… I am sure you have obstacles in your life, but remember they will always be there. It is how we interpret those obstacles that make us wake up stressed or smiling each day.
Thanks for taking the time to read this email.
I hope it has sparked some memories of your upbringing. Good or bad they mean nothing. The past is just that. The past. Use it as research and development of what works and what does not. Start fresh today and focus on a bigger future for yourself.
If you had someone in your life that shared blind encouragement with you then think back and remember those lessons, and if not, know that others who share that common thread have had huge success.
Gravitate towards friends and family who promote and encourage you and drift away from those who do the opposite.
I will do my best to help. In fact, in not too long of a time I am going to start a weekly video blog with updated real estate techniques and secrets I learn. It’ll be one more way I can pass on knowledge and encouragement to you!
Ok - - I’m done for now. Sorry for another long message - but I feel it was important.
‘Til next time, live your life, pursue your passions and be encouraged!
Most Sincerely,
Dean Graziosi
Creator of Think A Little Different
Author of Be A Real Estate Millionaire
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April 3rd, 2008 at 10:29 pm
Dean,
Thank you for those words of encouragement. Unfortunately I have no positive influences in my life to talk to, but reading your book, and listening to your conference calls helps me to break out of this prison that is my life! Amen!
Joe,
I’m glad that I can be an inspiration to you. Apply everything you know and success will soon follow. Best of luck in 2008. Dean Graziosi
April 4th, 2008 at 10:57 pm
Thank you for sharing this story. With all the negatives we hear and see each day in the news, it’s important to remember there will always be more positives in our lives if we allow ourselves to see and hear them.
April 8th, 2008 at 4:49 am
So true, negitive thought is the insulator of the spirit. Blind encourgement is realitive to Blind Faith, my mother always called my dad a “Doubting Thomas” because he could only believe in what he physically could control. My mother sprinkled fairy dust on my head every morning for a whole year so I could fly to school talk about blind encourgement. It is a gift I have never forgotten. With that I hope I to can pass on.
Donna,
Thank yo so much for your words of encouragement. Best of luck to you. Dean Graziosi
April 16th, 2008 at 11:25 am
Thank you so much for another up lifting message. As you probably know by now there are MANY people who DO NOT have even one encouraging voice { supporter } in their lives. They never hear words of encouragement to be strong, step out, if you fall get up , brush yourself off and start all over again. Never do they hear the words “Don’t Be A Quiter” Oh sure there are plenty of negative words floating around. Most people plain and simple do not want to see others make something out of their lives. They’ll go to the extreme to see that you do not look better than they do or smarter. Thank God for people like yourself who share what they know so others can make it in this big old messed up world. Linda
Linda,
You’re welcome. I’m glad that you can appreciate this kind of encouragement. Best wishes to you. Dean Graziosi
April 20th, 2008 at 8:00 pm
This is so true Dean, You give us all the encouragement and wisdom we all need. Your story is so uplifting. GOD Bless you. Cindy.
April 25th, 2008 at 3:08 pm
Thank you Dean for having the heart that you have, you truly r a example to follow, may your knowledge and success bless all those who inquire.
May 5th, 2008 at 3:57 am
Dean,
I am a victim of NO blind encouragement in my youth, infact I had the opposite. My parents and family have been trying to control me most of my life. Even when I became a mother, my family would not let me learn on my own and make mistakes, they insisted on making me do things their way. I feel that I have been in their shadow forever.
In the last few years, though, I had a brother-in-law get into real estate investment and at the time was doing quite well. He was my encouragement into breaking out of my paycheck-to-paycheck way of thinking and seek out other means of income, particularly in real estate. I got books and advice from him and attempted to make my first “flip” of a property that didnt fall through. I was able to back out of the deal with no penalties, but I have not been able to trust myself to try again. I find great deals out there, but I am at a loss to figure out what to do now. I have no money, obviously since I live paycheck-to-paycheck, but I have a dream of buying my first home and having rental income from other properties. My brother-in-law was a source of adult blind encouragement, but now I need to put that encouragement I have recieved to the test. Thanks for helping me remember. ~Amy Q